Having a Great Marriage by Muhammad Afifudin

HAVING A GREAT MARRIAGE

Having a great marriage isn't quite easy for a marriage couple. However, we got to try our best to keep the marriage until the end. There are some ways that can help lead to a great marriage or long-lasting marriage such as be yourself, compliment each other every day, and many more.

The first thing is you have to be yourself, and your spouse will have proven that you are accepted and loved for who you really are, not who you are pretending to be. Being someone else is a bad step for a perfect marriage, it's like you have spoil the beautiful marriage.

Next, find ways to share responsibility. If you're both working 60 hours a week, why should the wife still have to do all the cooking and cleaning? Try to find a mix of jobs you both do better, e.g. dishes and lawn mowing, and share responsibility. Find ways of creating a routine that involves everyone, i.e.: “If you take the bins out, I’ll bring them in", “You wash, I’ll dry". Remember, you will be living together forever. The world won't come to an end if you don't finish all the laundry today :D

Furthermore, don’t expect perfection. Remember, your spouse is human, and so are you. Make some space for the human condition: tired, overworked, over-stressed, family illnesses, personal illnesses, and others. Plus, learn from your mistakes. When you say "I'm sorry", mean it! That means you won't repeat the action. Apologizing and then repeating the behavior shows your mate that you weren't that sorry after all, and trusting you will be hard.

Moreover, say thank you for the little things (doing the dishes, clearing the table, putting a new roll of toilet paper out, and do these things WITHOUT expectations). Compliment each other every day. It doesn't take much to make your spouse feel good. Be nice and when you're given a compliment, even if you don't agree, just say "thank you." These will ways will help a lot.


Last but not least, appreciate your partner's strengths as well as their weaknesses. They chose to be with you because there are in love. Show them how much you love them by being supportive when they are weak and proud when they are strong. That's all from me, have a good day ;)

SENIORS AND JUNIORS

BY : MUHAMMAD AIMAN BIN NASARUDDIN 

          (PTM140716980)

Hi!

Since I'm a student of a college, today I'm going share with about the relationship between seniors and juniors. Senior is a person who is a specified number of years older than someone else while junior is a person who is a specified number of years younger than someone else. Seniors are not meant to torture or disrespect the juniors. Seniors should be the role model to the juniors and the juniors should respect the seniors as well. So there won't be any misunderstanding or problems occur. There should be an interaction between the juniors and seniors. 

First of all, seniors in need are most important in any colleges, universities or institution. In a transition from school to college, it is necessary for the freshers to have someone to guide them. Before the juniors pursue their studies, the need to know about the institution and the courses that they going to take. So, the seniors are used to help the juniors in explaining the pros and cons of the particular course and institution. Some of the juniors will have trepidation while choosing. The seniors will help them to choose the courses that suitable to the juniors. Seniors will also guide and answer the juniors' doubt. In this way it will create a good environment in the college.

Next,  some of the administration of institution think prevention of any conversation between seniors and juniors inside the college campus is the only way to eradicate life losses due to ragging. This is like banning cars on streets because road accidents due to numbers of cars increase. Seniors are the person that always ready to help, how to study, what to do next, higher studies and what not. Interaction between them will also increase their communication skills with other people especially with the elders. In Japan, the seniors are called 'Senpai' while the juniors are called 'Kohai'. This 'Senpai' and 'Kohai' are terms to the mentor system in Japanese culture. The 'Senpai' is required to guide and train the 'Kohai'. While the 'Kohai' is required to obey and respect the 'Senpai'. This relationship a symbiotic relationship because both parties gain benefits. The 'Senpai' gain experience of leadership while 'kohai' gains experience necessary to become a 'Senpai'.

There are a lot of benefits of interaction between seniors and juniors. Most of the people think that banning the interaction between them will ensure safety and avoid ragging. It might avoid ragging and torturing the juniors but think about. If the juniors only interact with each other in institution, how will they interact with the elders when they have ended their studies and in working field. It will take a lot of time to increase their communication skills and self esteem. So, never underestimate the interaction between seniors and juniors.

Relationship with Allah-Part 2

By: Noor Syazwani Binti Said(PTM140716635)

Assalamualaikum Sir Khairy and my fellow viewers of this blog :) Lets start with Bismillah first and now we will proceed with my second post which is Relationship with Allah Part 2 everyone (:

          Before this I had already wrote about fulfilling obligatory duties, zikr and dua. So now I will proceed with the other 3 to draw us nearer to Allah for today. First, we have to build a closer relationship with the holy Qur'an. We as Muslim's should recite the Qur'an as much as we can for it will come as intercessor for its reciter during the Judgement Day. Reading a little each day is better than a lot once in a while. Whoever reads a letter from the Book of Allah will receive a good deed from Allah SWT. So, everyone should build a close relationship with the Qur'an which is in fact building a close relationship with Allah. 

Reading the Noble Qur'an

         Next, in order to be nearer to Allah, one should keep a good company or friend. We should avoid bad company such as friends who speak too freely, who miss Salah, who do not dress modestly, who backbite and slander. We should seek out pious friends who fear Allah taala and who have the qualities of humility, charity, compassion, modesty and knowledge. If we sit with them, we will always have benefit and this will also lead us to get closer to our Creator. This advice is very suitable for students who is going to be the leader of our future because nowadays many students easily trust their friends and causes them to be bad.

A good company that draw us nearer to Allah

        The last one is sincerely repenting to Allah. Everyone commits sin and does wrong, but Allah is always willing to forgive and He always gives them a chance to repent and seek for His forgiveness. Repentance is an act, which purifies the soul and brings the servant closer to Allah. It puts a heart at rest from guilt. A believer should never forget the fact that Allah is forgiving. If Allah had willed, He could have held everyone accountable for his or her sins but He has decided that He shall allow His servants to seek His forgiveness and that He shall in fact forgive who and what as He wish. Allah is the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy and Allah praises those who repent and turn to him. That's the end of my post, thank you for reading everyone :)

Repentance

Single

By : SITI MARIAM BINTI MANGSHOR (PTM140716628)

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 

Hello readers ! Happy holiday to my beloved english lecturer Sir Khairy and everyone :)

" I'm single but I'm fine "

          Single? Single does not mean love-less. Every relationship starts from being single. There are plenty of reasons why you stay single until present. Maybe you're afraid of being in a relationship. Or maybe you're unlucky, ohh just not YET lucky I mean :D Or maybe you are too choosy or you're waiting for somebody destined to meet you one day. But another type of single happens after break up ! Most people are in this category.Sorry to say, failed relationship.

          For me, it is okay when you're single and always thinking about having in relationship but it is not okay if you're in relationship but keep thinking to be single again. But you have to think about yourself, your parents, future, studies (if you are still a student) and career more than that "lovey dovey" things. 

Take note people : 

1. You have to stay single if you're not ready.
2. Stay single if you are always on the losing side.
3. Stay single if you're not ready to be hurt.
4. Stay single if you are tired of searching or waiting.
5. Better single if you are not ready to give commitment. It will hurt your partners if s/he know that you are either half serious or not serious at all in the relationship. Poor them :( 

          When you are in the relationship but maybe you're not destined to be with s/he, of coarse you break up right? Yeah I know it is hurt enough. Each time you fell, it hurt. So to cure your heartbreak, you BETTER stay single and take a break. Go to some vacation or trips and forget about s/he. You can't erase your past but you can life in better way. For me, it is better to be unattached rather to be with a wrong person again and again.

          So being single may be easier than being in relationship. Being single may be happy to some people (including me for now because I'm still a young girl and need to think about my studies) but some people rather choose to be in relationship because for them being in relationship is happier than being single. Actually both statuses bring pros and cons. Depend on you to choose it :)

          Just let yourself know, if you are suffering in relationship, you can't even hold it anymore, just get back to be single meanwhile if you are sick of being lonely without partners, go and find yours ! Think by yourself, make your decision by yourself. That will make you happy. 

          But you need to remember one single thing, The Almighty have create better story line for us. Just follow the flow and keep praying. Live your life people ! And with His blessed maybe one day, you'll find someone that afraid of losing you, yeah s/he is destined for you. Someone that The Almighty create for you. It's the best gift from Him. Once the time comes, you have to promise to take good care of s/he, love them, accompany them, be with them whenever in good or bad condition, be loyal to them and I am very sure you will be thanked to Him because take your ex(s) away before. Hihihihi

One fine day !

That's all for now. Wait for my next post maybe ! Leave your comment so that I can improve my writing and knowledge. Thank you for reading guys :)

   The Positive Teacher-Student Relationship 

By : A'qilah binti Roslan (PTM140716602)

  Assalamualaikum and a very good day to my super supportive English Language lecturer, Sir Mohamad Khairy Izwan bin Mohamad Zamani and everyone who are reading this article. First and foremost, i would like to ask a random question to all of you. Who is a teacher? A teacher is a person who teaches an individual or a group of students, regardless in a formal or informal situations. Basically a teacher can be the one who teaches a group of students in schools or in universities. 

  The teacher-student relationship is very important nowadays. Students spend 5-7 hours in school with teachers for almost 10 months. All of us have been through schooling, and if fortunate we all had a favourite teacher. Well, dont deny that. Hahaha. A positive relationship between teachers and students is hard to establish, but it will eventually be found in the end. A teacher and students who have the good qualities in communicating with each others, show respect in or outside of the classroom, show interest in teaching the students, and the students should do the same thing by showing the interest in learning. 

   Children have different types of strategies in learning something that the teacher is teaching. Some of them can quickly grasp and absorb the knowledge that is thrown by the teachers. But at the same time, there will be some students who have to be repeatedly taught by different kinds of technique so that they will understand more. The key is, teachers need to always monitor him or her in class to be aware of the difficulties that the student is having. Other than that, by understanding the students' fears, confusions, difficulties and problems will give the teacher a better understanding the child's difficulties in learning. Once the teacher becomes aware of the child's problems, he or she will have more patience and the child will feel secure and less confuse when lessons are taking place in the classroom. 

   Furthermore, teachers should joke around and make the students in the classroom laugh just to reduce depression, the state of being sleepy and etc. With jokes, students will not sleep in class but stays awake and focus instead. 

   Okay, that's all for now. I will update more post next time. Thank you. 

  

RELATIONSHIP WITH SIBLINGS

By: Nurmadihah binti Mahathir (PTM140716674)

Hello everyone! Today, I would like to talk about relationship with siblings.

Siblings play a unique role in one's another live that stimulates the companionships of parents as well as the power and assistance of friends. It is because siblings often grow up in the same household with us. Siblings relationship mostly reflect the overall condition of one family.

So, this is some tips that can be developed with our siblings. 

SIBLINGS

First, be patient. When you are tempted to get irritated remember.. love is not easily provoked. Quote this verse in your heart and always remember forever.

Furthermore, don't annoy them. Avoid doing certain things like tickling them, calling them by their nicknames if its irritating them but if its allowed, you just can do it.

Next, bless them. Blessing them really strengthened the relationships. We will found it is more special if we write out the blessings and give to them.

Also, spend quality time together. It is interesting to figure out which one our siblings mostly enjoy. One had tells the 5 love languages. The love languages are encouraging words, gift giving, physical touch, serving others and spend quality time.  

Last but not least and most importantly pray for them. Direct relationship between the frequency of our prayers for our siblings' needs and the patience and capacity God gives us to love our siblings. 

"The more you love, the more love you have to give. It's the only feeling we have which is infinite."

"Because I miss them. Because I need them. Because I love them."

"You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them."

"Brothers and sisters are as close as hands and feet."

ONE HAPPY FAMILY

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RELATIONSHIP WITH COLLEAGUES

BY: MUHAMMAD AIMAN BIN NASARUDDIN (PTM140716980)

Hi! 

Today I'm going to share about relationship with colleagues. As a human being, we will eventually go through this type of relationship.

Colleagues are a group of people whom work with us, especially in a profession or business. Colleagues are also known as coworker. We need to have a good relationship between colleagues so that we can develop our careers. Furthermore, good work relationship lead to excitement and increase productivity.

Isn't it funny that sometimes we have to give up on our jobs because of our terrible relationship with colleagues. Work with people we could not cope in the same office could be stressful to us.

Create a good communication at work place is very important. This will make you work with people in a comfortable way. It will give you more advantages than working alone. You will feel more comfortable with your colleagues by building positive relationship. Eventually, the bond between you and the other colleagues will get closer and stronger.

Here's some suggestion on what you can do to build that positive relationship between colleagues:

• Trust and be honest

  Every good relationship starts from this principle. To form a good and stronger bond that will help you work effectively, you need to trust and be honest to your colleagues. There's something wrong with yourself when your colleagues shut you out of the conversation. There is no need for you to lie about something to your colleagues. Sooner or later your colleagues will know the truth. Just be honest to your colleagues so that your colleagues feel comfortable whenever work with you.

• Respect your colleagues 

  When you respect your colleagues, you will accept their ideas and opinions. Do not disrespect whenever you disagree their opinions. Try to accept and understand their opinion. Your facial expression and body languages are important to avoid argument. Be a mentor to the new and young workers 

• Humble and friendly  

Check yourself from time to time to ensure that you did not be so arrogant to your colleagues. Be humble and friendly  so that you will get a great cooperation in your work.

Last but not least, you will perform very well when you work in environment. Moreover, you will feel more comfortable. That is why a positive relationship in the same office is very important. This will also lead you to a better performance in your work. As a human, we need friendship and positive interaction. So, never ever underestimate the importance of positive relationship not only with colleagues but with all the human being.

Relationship with Allah-Part 1

By:Noor Syazwani bt Said(PTM140716635)

Assalamualaikum Sir Khairy and everyone who is reading this article. So here we go ;) - Relationship with Allah(Part 1)
             
           Relationship with Allah means there is a connection between you and Allah. It should be the desire of every Muslim to draw nearer and closer to Almighty Allah. By drawing closer to Allah, we gain his help and mercy in order to enter Jannah in the next world. When we call upon him, he would surely answer our calls and we ask for something, he would give it to us when the right time comes. Humans always complain why their needs are not given by Allah, well there is wisdom behind every situation. So we should keep trying, hoping and praying that Allah will answer our prayer with His best decision. So what can we do to draw closer to him? In shaa Allah, I will tell you the steps that can help us to draw nearer to Allah. 

           Okay the first step is fulfilling obligatory duties such as prayers, zakat, hajj, fasting in the month of Ramadhan or Monday and Thursday. Next, being good to your parents also considered as obligatory duties that can draw you near to Allah. So, we need to do All of our duties to gain a great path that leads us to Allah. 

Praying resolves sadness inside

Doing Hajj gives inner peace that are unexplainable

               
           Moreover, Zikr or remembrance of Allah can also drew us closer to Him. Zikr can be done anywhere and anytime. In fact the heart of the believer should be attached to Allah's remembrance throughout his day to day activities such that protects himself from falling with the temptations of this world and that his love for Allah and his Messenger becomes stronger as time goes by. Remembrance to Allah makes a person is very concsious with his actions because he felt someone was watching up there. 

Zikr in everyday life makes you remember Allah more

            The last one for this part is Dua. Dua's are never wasted and Allah angers at those who don't make dua. This is because dua is a weapon for a muslim said Rasulullah SAW. So let us build a close relationship with Allah by making Dua to him. As we can see now, last few weeks, the world is full of news with the war between Palestine and Israel. We as muslims were very sad of this condition and also the non-muslims from the entire world. If we cannot fight for them, just pray and asked for Allah's help which is making dua. Eventhough it looks simple but it is a big effort and very important for the Palestine people during the war that have been going for decades. So that's all for now, the other part will continued next time. Thank you for reading :)

Dua is the best weapon, Allah always hear you

Couple ? Good or not ?

BY : SITI MARIAM BINTI MANGSHOR (PTM140716628)

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

     Hi everyone ! Today I'm sharing you about the pros and cons of couple among teenagers.

     Nowadays, many teenagers in high school already have boyfriend or girlfriend. Couple is define as two people or things of the same sort considered together. There are advantages and disadvantages of couple in teenagers.

     One of the advantages of couple among teenagers is they can study together so that they can strive together towards excellent. For me, some teenagers love to get support from the opposite gender. Maybe with the moral support, they will get good result in their examination because they tend to learn more because someone that they love is supporting them from back.

     Furthermore, couple between teenagers can cope with stress. The reason why I say this is because when we couple, we have trust on him/her. So that we being able to talk to him/her about everything and in any moments and always having support makes we stronger. We also being able to built something together like sharing lifetime or moments of our life with somebody important and that we love it's the most amazing feeling.

 

     Now we're moving to the disadvantages of couple in teenagers. There are type of couple that love to cheat on their partner. Cheating could happen very often and unfortunately. This happen when the partne feel boring on their own partners, no common interests, arguing or even suffering because of silly misunderstanding or they like to have many boyfriends/ girlfriends at the same time. That's sucks right?!! Then, the worst part is the partners will get painful when broke up in a relationship because of the third person.

     Less freedom, jealousy could be annoying in the relationship. Do you know why I said this? This is because when we have a boyfriend/girlfriend, we can't have friends with the opposite gender freely. Our partner will be jealous and then it will make our life less freedom. We need to think about him/her before we decide to "hangout" with our crazy friend. Oh so cliche.

     In my opinion, it is very good couple in teenagers when we do it in the right way and it is bad when we do it in the wrong way. It's depend on how we express our love toward our partner. The relationship between teenagers will last longer if they feel the true love and otherwise it is just a "puppy love". 

Parent Child Relationship

By : A'qilah binti Roslan (PTM140716602)

       Hello everyone. 

   Of many different relationships we form over the course of life span, the relationship between child and parent is among the most important. So, do you guys consider that the relationship between your parents is important and full with love? Yes or no? Think about it.

 

   Likewise, when a baby cries when he/she is hungry, the parent feed him/her,and when the baby snuggles, the parent hugs him/her. Day after day, night after night, the parents feed, wash, clean, and most of all holds and take a good care of the baby with love.

   Gradually, the parents respond to and even anticipate their baby's needs. When the children have outgrown themselves from infancy to toddlerhood, it eventually changes their parents' focus. As the youngsters begin to talk and socialize with other people, parents usually attempt to shape their children's behaviour. Parents will try their ever best to mould their children's attitude.As the child grows up, the parent-child relationship changes and it can take many shapes depending on the behaviour and attitude of the parents towards their children. Some people can be really warm and accepting.

  After all, children nowadays should know the importance of keeping their relationship with parents in a good condition because parents is the most important person in our life. 

   

FRIENDS

By: Nurmadihah binti Mahathir (PTM140716674)

Assalamulaikum and good night hahaha good evening guys. My bad.

          In my opinion, friends can be described as someone who is close and take good care of us. In other words, friends also can be defined as a person you know well and regard with affection, trust and respect. Before I proceed, care to answer my question? Do you have friends? No? Opss sorry :D 

         When I think about what makes someone a good friend, I think about all the characteristics of my own friends. True friends hard to find nowadays. Many friends tend to leave me from time to time. Most importantly, I want a friend who is someone I can talk to, and makes me laugh every single day. 

         Next, I want a friend, who is willing to help me if I need it. One personal experience I had with this was when one of my friend, we all out for outing. We planned to eat together but I have got no money. Millions of thoughts were racing through my mind ; what would I do, who I should ask for help. But then, my friend pay for me. Her actions that day made me realized that a true friend would takes risks for each other. 

        To me, everyone need a friend and we will probably have one at least. We need friend to cherish our life. We all mess up sometimes and end up hurting a friend's feelings. But when we grew older, we can forgive each other as long it is for our own good.