Having a Great Marriage by Muhammad Afifudin

HAVING A GREAT MARRIAGE

Having a great marriage isn't quite easy for a marriage couple. However, we got to try our best to keep the marriage until the end. There are some ways that can help lead to a great marriage or long-lasting marriage such as be yourself, compliment each other every day, and many more.

The first thing is you have to be yourself, and your spouse will have proven that you are accepted and loved for who you really are, not who you are pretending to be. Being someone else is a bad step for a perfect marriage, it's like you have spoil the beautiful marriage.

Next, find ways to share responsibility. If you're both working 60 hours a week, why should the wife still have to do all the cooking and cleaning? Try to find a mix of jobs you both do better, e.g. dishes and lawn mowing, and share responsibility. Find ways of creating a routine that involves everyone, i.e.: “If you take the bins out, I’ll bring them in", “You wash, I’ll dry". Remember, you will be living together forever. The world won't come to an end if you don't finish all the laundry today :D

Furthermore, don’t expect perfection. Remember, your spouse is human, and so are you. Make some space for the human condition: tired, overworked, over-stressed, family illnesses, personal illnesses, and others. Plus, learn from your mistakes. When you say "I'm sorry", mean it! That means you won't repeat the action. Apologizing and then repeating the behavior shows your mate that you weren't that sorry after all, and trusting you will be hard.

Moreover, say thank you for the little things (doing the dishes, clearing the table, putting a new roll of toilet paper out, and do these things WITHOUT expectations). Compliment each other every day. It doesn't take much to make your spouse feel good. Be nice and when you're given a compliment, even if you don't agree, just say "thank you." These will ways will help a lot.


Last but not least, appreciate your partner's strengths as well as their weaknesses. They chose to be with you because there are in love. Show them how much you love them by being supportive when they are weak and proud when they are strong. That's all from me, have a good day ;)